The Journey of Grief

According to Webster’s Dictionary, grief is defined as (a.) a deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement or (b.) a cause of such suffering.  To me grief is more than just these definitions, it is complex and life changing.  Grief is something everyone will experience at some time in their lifetime.  We may be able to say what caused our grief and when it started, but we cannot predict when or if it will end.  I would argue that grief does not end, but that our grief changes over time.  We are changed by grief.  Ann Hood writes, “Grief in not linear.  People kept telling me that once this happened or that passed, everything would be better…But it is not linear…It is a jumble.  It is hours that are all right, and weeks that aren’t.  Or it is good days and bad days.  Or it is the weight of sadness making you look different to others and nothing helps.”

Grief is different for each of us.  Our journeys may be similar, but it is not identical.  No one can predict how you will react or how it will change you.  Grief will hit you when you least expect it.  Jan Warner writes, “Grief is complex.  It is ever changing and may come to us differently on any given day.  Yet, it is possible to build a bridge that spans from the acute pain of loss to a life in which peace, and even gratitude, can coexist with our grief.”  There is no set timeline to when one will get to peace or gratitude, however I pray that each one of us who grieve will be able to get to a place of peace with grief. 

Grief can be a lonely place, where one feels isolated.  You don’t have to grieve alone.  Starting on October 10^th, 2024 at 5:00 pm, St. Mark will start a grief support group.  We will meet once a month in the Adult Ministries Room.  This will be a safe space to share our grief with one another.  This is a place where we will support one another and share our stories.  We will pray together, laugh together, and cry together. Whatever you are grieving and where ever you are in your journey of grief, you are welcome to join the grief support group.  If you are interested in joining the grief support group, please contact Jill Daniels via text at 847-224-4751 or Pastor Katrina at prkatrina@stmarklc.com or 815-988-1215.

Yours in Christ, 

Pastor Katrina Steingraeber